Let’s face it. Too often the corporate world and even the family room dining table can encourage conformity – fitting in, not being too bold, not being too yourself – whether it’s your opinions, your tastes or your smarts.
Dictionary.com defines “conform” as “to comply in actions, behavior, etc. with accepted standards or norms.” The words “comply” and “accepted standards” are particularly troubling. How yucky and confining do those words feel?
Certainly, there are exceptions within companies and families … but I dare say that in general, conformity is valued over uniqueness and authenticity. That can be particularly true as one pursues their career dreams.
…And then there is Hollywood.
Upon landing in Los Angeles with my one-way ticket over eight years ago, I quickly got into acting and TV hosting classes. I had acted and hosted in Ohio and wanted to see what it would be like in LA. There are two key lessons I learned in those classes and jobs that are worth embracing – for everyone, regardless of their career choice.
Figure Out What’s Unique About You
It’s not about fitting in during an audition; it’s about standing out. There are a lot of people waiting in line for the same job who look exactly like you. Why should casting directors (employers, clients) pick you?
You need to figure out what makes you unique – and trust me, there are a lot of things. What comes easily to you? What do your friends go to you for because you’re better at it than they are? What do you love to talk about, and what articles do you like to read? What education and training have you completed? What unique family or travel experiences do you like to share? What makes you laugh? Figure out your unique story.
Celebrate It & Sell It
Once you’re in the audition (or interview, or meeting) room, dare to celebrate and show those unique qualities. Use them to promote yourself and your services, and incorporate them into your personal brand. You can’t be like everyone else and think you’re going to excel or get the gig. In the audition, it’s all about standing out.
Yes, it requires confidence to show the real you … but when you get there, it’s fabulous and freeing. Your example will encourage the same in those around you!
When did you have the courage to be yourself, and how did it affect your ability to get the gig? Share your story in the comments below.
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