Feeling unsettled? Wanting change? And yet – you don’t know exactly what you want for yourself? Perhaps you just know that where you are right now isn’t where you want to be, and that keeps you feeling stuck and frustrated.
Do ya feel me? Well, you’re not alone. There are a lot of folks out there feeling the same way. Believe me. I was one of them, and I talk with lots of clients who are having the same struggle.
So, let’s talk about 3 questions to ask yourself so you can get clarity on what you want …
Before you reflect and ask yourself these questions, it’s a great idea to place yourself somewhere quiet, where you can take some deep breaths, center yourself and really allow the thoughts and feelings to come to you. After all, we’re not trying to figure things out with our minds. We’re trying to do a better job at listening with our hearts.
To prepare, turn off your cell phone and computer and let your loved ones take care of themselves for a while – then ask yourself …
Question 1: When do you feel your best?
Think of a specific, recent situation in which you felt at the top of your game. What were you doing? Who were you with? What energized you about the situation?
Really reflect on the feeling and the memory. Chances are good that you felt your best in that situation because you were working to your strengths. You felt confident and successful. You connected with the people. And I dare say you were probably helping others in some way by sharing your gifts.
Understanding each part of the memory provides clarity – because what you want is to feel that way more often. It makes sense then that you’ll want to hang around people like that, be in places like that and be doing stuff like that to move you toward what you want.
Question 2: If time and money weren’t factors, what would you pursue?
Time and money are common reasons people don’t pursue what they want for themselves. They’re easy reasons to stay stuck. But, if you’re ready for change, it’s time to free your mind of these limiting thoughts and figure out what you’d do if they didn’t exist (because – they’re probably less of an issue than you think).
So, dream the dream. If you woke up tomorrow having won the lottery and been granted 24 more hours in the day – what would you do? What would you want to achieve for yourself?
Give yourself room to think about this and feel the possibilities. It’s hard to figure out what you want for yourself if you put up the barriers of finances and time before you even get started.
And it’s so fun to think about!
Question 3: How best can you help others?
When do your friends want your advice? What do you volunteer to do – in your personal or professional life – just because you enjoy it and it helps others?
It can be anything; be careful not to take your gifts for granted. Are you a fashion trendsetter? An engaging writer? A relationship builder? A great number cruncher? Your gifts may not always be the obvious ones that are stated on a performance review or listed on a resume. Consider what yours are.
Ultimately, we all want that feeling of fulfillment that comes from helping others by using our unique gifts.
I really hope the insights you gained from asking yourself these questions provided some clarity. Please let me know by sharing your stories. I’m anxious to hear!
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